Learning to pause before committing can help you protect your time, energy, and priorities—and avoid saying yes on impulse
Sometimes we end up saying “yes” before our brain has had a chance to join the conversation and figure out the consequences. A friend needs a favour. A colleague wants help. Someone invites you to an event three weeks from now. Before you know it, you’re committed! And then left exhausted, and wondering why your calendar looks like a game of Tetris.
Power of a pause
Always remember there’s a pause button on all remotes and you are allowed to use that in real life as well. Instead of an instant yes, try saying, “Let me check and get back to you.” A small pause can prevent a big regret. After all, every yes takes up space in your life. Make sure it’s a space worth giving away.
It is important to ask yourself these three simple questions before saying “yes” to anything and anyone.
Do I actually want to do this?
It sounds obvious, but many of us say “yes” out of habit. We don’t want to disappoint people, seem rude, or miss out on something. Take a moment and ask yourself: if nobody’s feelings were involved, would I still want to do this? If the answer is no, then pause before answering.
Do I have the time and energy?
A free slot in your schedule does not automatically mean you’re available. Time and energy are not the same thing. You may technically have a Saturday afternoon free, but if you’ve had a hectic week, that time might be better spent resting. Before agreeing, consider what the commitment will cost you, not just in hours but in effort.
Source : https://www.freepressjournal.in/lifestyle/stop-saying-yes-too-fastheres-why-its-draining-your-life