Roseanne Barr’s ex-husband Tom Arnold, 67, has revealed that he hasn’t had sex in 10 years — because he has always viewed women of his age as “disgusting.”
The “True Lies” actor and comedian opened up exclusively to Page Six about his love life in a new interview, explaining how his opinions about women in their 60s have evolved over time, while confessing that he is eager to find someone he can settle down with.
When asked if he is serious about wanting to be in love again, Arnold said, “Yeah,” before adding, “It would be good to love somebody and be loved.”
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Arnold revealed that he has actually met a number of attractive women while on his nationwide “My Crazy X-Wife” comedy tour, noting that they have helped to change his previous opinions about dating someone from his own generation.
“I used to say, people are like, because I haven’t had a date for nine and a half years, ‘You should date someone your own age.’ And I’m like, ‘Dude, have you seen people my age? We are freaking disgusting,’” he confessed.
“But here’s the thing. I have learned there’s a lot of funny, smart, sexy, 60-something women,” the comedian added.
Arnold, who is dealing with a broken back, opened up on his romantic status and health challenges walking the red carpet at Cure Addiction Now (CAN) 3rd Annual Fundraising Evening.
Arnold has previously been married and divorced four times, and he has two children — Jax, 13, and Quinn, 10 — with his most recent ex-wife, Ashley Groussman.
The “Roseanne” actor was notably married to actress and series star Barr, now 74, from 1990 to 1994.
However, their relationship became very strained, with Barr claiming that their marriage fell apart as a result of Arnold’s substance use, as well as his reported physical and psychological abuse.
“Throughout our marriage, [Arnold] has been physically and emotionally abusive toward me,” Barr wrote in court papers.
“I now realize that I am a classic battered and abused wife who has tolerated the conduct . . . only because [Arnold] has successfully lowered my self-esteem and reduced me into the realm of battered wife syndrome.”
Arnold was a writer and producer on “Roseanne” while the couple were married; however, Barr fired him in 1994, the same year they divorced.
The actor has since been through a sobriety journey, revealing that he has found surprising support in that struggle from the women he meets on his tour.
“After the show when people are coming back, they will talk about being clean and sober, or trying to get sober,” he shared.
While he no longer considers himself sober, because he did use prescription drugs while recovering from surgeries, Arnold said he still has a strong support system in place to ensure he stays on the right track.
“I have a sponsor, I have my guys, gangs, and they know what the deal was,” he said.
Speaking about his hopes for the future, the actor and comedian said he hopes that he can one day meet a woman who he feels proud to introduce to his children, explaining that he has made “bad choices” in the past that have let his kids down.
“I think, one of these days, it will happen,” he said, although he revealed that he’s quickly learned most women are not “looking for a guy that used to have a lot of money and now has two little kids.”
“They are like, ‘Forget that. That is not what I’m looking for,’” he joked.
He conceded, however, that he feels blessed to have so many wonderful people in his life, including his children and his “buddies,” who provide him with enough fulfillment that he is not desperate for a romantic partner.
“I love my kids so much,” he continued. “That’s a lot of love there. And my buddies. But I’ll be okay. You know, I’ve had four marriages.”
Arnold was greeted at the event by Cure Addiction Now founder Nancy Davis alongside other star names for supporting her efforts to raise critical funds for groundbreaking research initiatives to advance innovative treatments, reduce stigma, and develop life-saving solutions for individuals and families affected by substance use disorder.
The actor has been transparent about his struggles with addiction, sharing that he began drinking at the age of 12 and using drugs when he finished high school.
